These two common words can really make a difference! They will make a difference in how people react to your statement or point. Using just one or the other will tell their brain what thought you are really trying to convey to them.
The word “And” consolidates and minimizes a point or fact. You can use this when making a list that you want to minimize the effect. Say if you were to be telling your boss about a project and there was a bad piece in there, to minimize the significance of the list you use “And”.
An example would be; Our sales of Widget A,B And C were down but……
The word “Or” multiplies and exaggerates a list. So if you want to make something look better or larger, use the word Or in your sentence.
This product works in cold or humid or hot climates. When your brain hears this it hears 3 different things. cold;hot;humid. Compare that to:
This product works in the cold and hot and humid climates.
Hot and humid are lumped together as one. Your brain counts 2 different characteristics, when there are really 3!
When speaking we can use voice tones to emphasize or deemphasize words, we can also use voice volume and speed to make those effects as well. However, when typing a text or email, the use of these words in Imperative to the person seeing things your way.
Try being conscious of this in all of your texts this week and watch the difference! It may seem small, but the human subconscious is strong.
This weekend I was speaking with a mental health clinician. She was young (mid 20’s), and petite. Her job is home visits and other transport and meetings with clients. She was telling me about two of her new clients that were assigned her. She told of how one of them touched her, and told her they should “hook up”. The other client calls and texts her and stalks her, on Facebook and other social media.
In the daily task of her job she must meet alone with clients, most of which are males, and all of which have a mental illness. She expressed concern over the physical threat that she faces every day. I suggested several options, and this is where it became interesting to me. All of her objections were based on her clothing. How she looked.
As with most women now a days, they were tight fitting clothes. Yes ladies you look good, and men like to see it. Men like yoga pants and tight shirts, low cut blouses etc. So this much you have accomplished. You want to look good, be seen and admired. But at what cost? At what point do you evaluate your whole lifestyle and come up with some sort of compromise. One of my suggestions was OC spray. She explained to me that with her tight fitting shirt and pants, that it would “bulge out and look like a tumor”. The same responce when asked about a gun, stun gun, and knife. For the purpose of this discussion we are going to completely ignor the topic of training. What we are looking at here is a womans decision that fashion over safety is acceptable.
My suggestion was very simple, adapt your clothing to accomodate some form of protection. This young lady is at high risk of physical assault every day, and yet she would rather have “that look” than compromise even a little to provide any form of protection for herself. This was very interesting to me psychologically. She completely understands the risk, and is not willing to adapt to overcome it.
Now we look at other women. The “average woman”. Lets define her as someone who’s daily job does not directly involve a high risk of physical assault. The statistics show that a woman is raped every 65 seconds in the United States. That does Not include physical assaults (battery, robbery, abuse, etc). The risk of physical assault on women is quite high. This is 2016 and violence against women is not getting any better. When you look around the streets, mall, shopping centers, sidewalks, etc, what you see is women with no protection. Most have placed fashion over personal safety.
It is not the womans fault for being assaulted. Lets make that clear. But lets also make clear the threat that women face every day, no matter what there job or where they live. I often here comments from women that “I’m always aware of my surroundings” “I never do this or that”. But the facts and statistics show that women are being victimized every day at an extremely high rate.
I deal with victims literally every day. I would guess 98% of them all said the same thing. That they “never imagined it would happen to them, and they never thought that person would do that”. The other 2% are the ones that stay in a physically abusive relationship and completly expect it over and over. But most women do not expect to be hurt today.
Women need to have a form of protection on them at all times and in all places. (the obvious excluded; court houses, etc.) The issue is, that women want to be admired, looked at and wanted. Women like personal notice and attention. However the savages in our society notice these women first, and target them for those same reasons. Again, I will reiterate that it is not the womans fault for looking attractive and being attacked. I’m simply stating that this is the paradigm.
In todays society, women need more than “street smarts”, friends, and awareness to be safe on our streets. Although these and many other things can contribute to lower your chances of assault, it does not eliminate it. Can women find a solution that fits their desires and lifestyle and have protection too? I believe they can. It is just a matter of making a personal decision to do so.
Men also have a simular issue. Men will do things and intentionally put themselves into dangerous situations. Men like the “rush”. Whether it be fighting at the bar, skydiving, or driving crazy, men also willingly compromise their saftey at will.
There is a part in each of our brains that will at times take over logic and deminish out decision making abilities. We should all be aware of this, and do a manual override on it when we notice it. When that little voice in your head says “dont do it”, its most likely the logical part of your brain warning you.
I have had the opportunity to work with people with Mental Illness in mental health institutions, and on the streets professionally. From the sidewalks, to homes, to In-Patient care facilities I have encountered and dealt with hundreds of people with mental illnesses and many of them in crisis.
What I have discovered is that human behavior, physical body language appears to run standard across the board. Whether it be a “normal” individual, a diagnosed person, or someone in crisis they all seem to demonstrate the same physical behavior traits, or body language consistant with what we know about reading/interpreting body language.
This I have found especially true with aggressive/violent behavior. Agitation, pre-assault indicators, anger, apear to remain the same no matter the persons mental state at that time.
Confusion, alertness, and other body language may not always be consistent with what we know to be standard. However, I am continuing my study on all of this as well.
What this means is that no matter who the individual is, their behavior will telegraph their intention to lash out physically. This is something that I have not seen a lot of research on, therefore I started my own. What my research shows thus far is that we can consistently recognize, address and prepare for a physical encounter/assault without having to “diagnose” a person in the moment to interpret their intentions. They all portray the same physical traits, and therefore you can recognise and protect yourself from a physical assault.
A few years ago the Lead Instructor at Fort Campbell Army Combatives program (MACP) called me and asked me to prepare a short training video to teach how to recognize the physical behavior of a person intending to physically attack another. This video is below.
I found one good article from Police One describing physical assault indicators as well. It is at this link HERE. It is a good read, and will also help you “read” people prior to an attack.
I have included in my study undiagnosed “normal” people, schizophrenia, Bi-Polar, Intoxicated, Narcotic influenced “high/stoned”, Psychopathy, PTSD, Dementia, and other clinically diagnosed persons. I will continue my face to face, hands on research, however at this point these are my findings.
No matter what mental state the individual is in, they will foretell their intentions of a physical assault.
My research has found no deviation due to race or ethnic/cultural background either.
Learn to recognize potential dangerous behavior, and how to deal with it; Before it gets out of control.
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Police, Military, and other government agents are getting this training, the problem is that they are not the victims. The normal American on the streets are the victims, and You are not getting the knowledge you need to recognize these threats.
The video below will give you a crash course on what to look for.
How to deal with it and alter the behavior is covered in detail in the book.
As we watch the rating go up and down, spike and plummet, we can see why. When we analyize this objectively (as I am taking NO political stance here on either side), we are looking at the blunders that should have and could have been avoided with Behavioral Programming methodology.
First up, the Trump repeat.
The candidate: Donald J. Trump, the classiest candidate
The gaffe: Discussing Ted Cruz’s opposition to waterboarding, Trump heard a shout in the audience. “She just said a terrible thing,” Trump said. You know what she said? Shout it out because I don’t want to say.” She did it, but he decided to repeat it anyway. “OK. You’re not allowed to say—and I never expect to hear that from you again,” he impishly scolded. “She said he’s a pussy. That’s terrible. Terrible!”
We discuss this in depth in the book Behavioral Programming. It is a social and interpersonal rule breaker to repeat, and raise/give attention and acknowledge an intentional personal attack. This is discussed in Chapter 21 in the book, the effects of doing this and what the appropriate alternatives are.
This “cackling” from the crowd seems to be somewhat common place during speaches. In chapter 30 of the book we discuss this and how to stop it. If you address behavior correctly, others will respond the programming and prevent future instances, even from completely different people.
Chapter 34 of the book also addresses these types of issues. How to turn a negative comment or situation around to be positive and make you look good and the other person satisfied as well.
Chapter 38 lays out the rules for keeping these types of incidents from happening again. Deal with an issue once, make it a positive experience, and keep it from happening again.
A huge part of these candidates loosing supporters and poll numbers dropping is due to comments or actions “going viral”. The word gets around very quickly these days with social media and the news. Chapter 44 in the book teaches you all about how this social dynamic works, and how to make it work in your favor, or start a revolution against you.
The candidate: Hillary Clinton
The gaffe: Perhaps it’s more the denouement of a gaffe. During a Facebook chat Tuesday, journalist-activist Jose Antonio Vargas criticized Clinton for referring to people who are in the country without official status as “illegal immigrants.” In response, she pledged to quit using the term.
The defense: The debate over how to refer to this group of people is heated and hardly resolved. The Associated Press, for example, in 2013 dropped “illegal immigrant” but also banned “undocumented immigrant” as imprecise and often untrue.
Why it matters (or doesn’t): In some ways, this is a microcosm of Clinton’s struggles: She comes from the ’60s, a long time ago, and she never seems so out of touch as when she deploys terminology that used to be acceptable but isn’t anymore. She also seems to periodically misstep, annoying progressives who don’t entirely trust her.
Here was have what is a problem for everyone. Word choice. What words and terms should we be using. Throughout the entire book we discuss words and verbiage that are appropriate for all audience and occasions.
In Chapter 18 of the book we discuss in detail word and phrase choices that should be used, and also ones that should never be used. We discuss why, and the effects of using these specific words and phrases.
This whole thing, and many others could have easily been avoided, and issues and bad press avoided, by all candidates. Chapter 19 would stop most of the bad press each time they open their mouths and talk. You should learn from them and not make the same mistakes. They could cost you friendships, jobs, opportunities, etc.
Not only the words we choose to use, but the order in which we put them, and the exact way they are phrased, even with the smallest details to you, are interpreted completely different than what you actually meant. In chapter 36 we discuss this in detail, and make sure you know how to properly phrase what you are trying to convey to the other person. Do not leave room for error or misinterpretation! Make yourself clear by the exact way you phrase your sentences.
Psychological operations (PsyOp) are a planned process of conveying messages to a target audience (TA) to promote certain attitudes, emotions, and behavior. These messages are typically conveyed using a line of persuasion known as a theme.
PsyOp is basically the use of communication to influence behavior. It is used against adversaries, their supporters, and their potential supporters. It is defined by the US Army in the following way: “Psychological operations are planned operations to convey selected information and indicators to foreign audiences to influence their emotions, motives, objective reasoning, and ultimately the behavior of foreign governments, organizations, groups, and individuals.”
Behavioral Programming changes peoples behavior. It teaches you exactly how to get people to do what they need to do.
This book is the newest form of influence out there. Years of research went into this, to learn not only how to alter a persons behavior, but also how it actually works; making it work consistently, and with everyone, not just one certain “target person or audience”.
According to the US military, the ultimate goal of PsyOp is to modify the behavior of the TA.
The military also establishes contact with a TA using face-to-face communication (F2C) and psychological actions (PsyActs). F2C and PsyActs are similar. Both are audiovisual products consisting of agents of action who deliver messages to a TA.
Both require that the people involved follow a set of guidelines while play-acting to deliver the messages. Both are used to modify the behavior of the A. F2C usually involves a single individual addressing another individual, or a single individual addressing a group. PsyActs generally require more planning, more resources, and use multiple people to transmit messages. They require the coordination of a variety of resources, while F2C is simple.
Tactical Product Development Detachment
A Tactical Product Development Detachment (TPDD) is a small unit that works at the division or area level to instantly create PsyOp products for a specific situation in the AO. It provides products for PsyOp personnel that will have immediate tactical use in the AO.
The TPDD works with the civilian sector to supply most of its audio, visual, and audiovisual products for theater (battlespace) distribution. This includes civilian specialists in radio and TV programming, station management, casting, directing, editing, graphic arts, advertising, computers, design, music, photography, audio/video, and printing.
The newest Psyops techniques, Behavioral Programming found HERE!
Some material refferenced and quoted here is found here.
I spent personal time with Neil Strauss, back while he was writing his best seller “Emergency”, and continued since then.
After publishing his NY Times best seller “The Game”, we had a lot to talk about and discuss about phycology, human behavior and techniques. His focus was quite different than mine, in the sense that his research was very specific to one goal, make temporary friendships and get the girl.
My book Behavioral Programming is focussed on true, lasting, and real relationships; to include business (boss, coworkers, subordinates), intimate relationships, strangers, and how to change and make existing relationships even better.
Here is Neil and I in LA, night on the town; playing around and using our techniques.
If you want the best, go to the experts!
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